I hated getting on the bus.
I LOVE going on the bus!
Little bit of elementary lesson there about past tense and present tense. Class dismissed!
The school bus is a humongous breakthrough for me. Perhaps the bus can be yours too. Here is how the bus system works in the topic of autism.
I had to go to school. Being dropped off by my parents was not much of an option back then. Off to the bus whether I liked it or otherwise.
It would be easy to say something on the lines of:
True, many things become much better over time, but there is a bit more to it than just time. You see, I didn't take the BIG bus to go to school, I took a much smaller bus going to school. A bus so small it can carry around ten students at a time. We call it: The Little Bus. That little bus was not so noisy; Only about four students that ride it including me, and it would always be a quiet ride the whole way to the school and back home.
Watching paint dry.
It is a very common activity to think about when a boring activity comes to thought. Who'd want to sit there and watch paint dry?
Probably not today, but as a toddler, I would totally be into something like that.
HERE IS WHY.
Not just about the paint drying that is the topic. Other subjects that fit the boring category.
Examples of many boring things in the topic. This all can do some incredibly good things in the topic of autism, and I will share with you why that is.
The entire world excites me! Full of action packed adventures all over the place. I would not be going on buses and letting them take me to somewhere new if I did not start with the boring. Here is how I see it.
As the late great Al Jolson would say:
"I love-a to- I love-a to sing!"
After he would tell his audience that he loves to sing-a about the moon, the month of June, and the season of spring.
I love to sing! Used to sing with my mom and my dad when we were in the car. Whenever Dad sings, it's always so cool how he turns with a smile and goes: "Do ya like ma singin'?" In recent news, I learned that he used to slay it in karaoke bars back in the day. Trying to follow his footsteps. One more personal note real quick is that I discovered this thing called Twitch Sings, and I can sing all kinds of songs with lots of people online! It's a lot of fun! All kinds of singing styles are a joy to sing the tunes with. Spent the last several hours singing and dancing when no one was watching.
Wish I can talk a whole lot about personal singing experiences, folks; But onto the same topic relating to autism. Here is why the topic of singing to me is incredibly important and something to be positively...
Bad habit! Bad bad bad! I do not approve.
HOWEVER! I would like to take the time to share with you why this gross habit can be so popular with people that have autism or otherwise; Sort of a universal thing that a lot of people would do. Including me. Not as bad as much earlier, but I am so much better at stopping myself before it continues.
Lots of people have their reasons why they bite their nails. I would like to share with you my reason why. I hope this can help you understand why the nail biting happens. This is going to be one of the most discussing and embarrassing things I have ever put in words.
Here we go!
It was true that I have had a habit of eating nails. Finger nails, toe nails, and even actual nails used for construction. Actual nails where I attempted to swallow but dug them out by sticking my hand down my throat and getting them out. Easily learned that you just don't do that; Swallowing nails, just stick with the swords; I don't encourage sword swallowing, just...
"C'mon, Tyler! We're going to Idaho!"
No way to negotiate involving staying at home, minds were set, and we were on our way to Idaho to see my uncle and aunt.
Traveling is one of the biggest challenges relating to autism. One of the biggest reasons why is because traveling involves the one important key word that can be a challenge:
May expect some chaotic moments when it involves travel. I know it was painful whenever I would travel. Couldn't even go to the city of Seattle; Which is one thirty minute boat trip away by the way.
That is why I have identify traveling as a skill.
The more you travel, the more you get better at it. It is very possible to become a master traveler, all there is is just some practice.
I could make it easy by saying keep on traveling, but I would also like to share some strategies that can help making...
Pictured here is Marvin the Martian from Warner Bros.' Looney Tunes & Merrie Melodies. Image is free to use.
I found myself interested in a certain subject in the field of entertainment relating to the topic of fictional characters of fantasy. The characters that I have been familiar with and have seen many times whether in books, cartoons in the television, and in video games; is those that do not feature a mouth in their designs.
I used to think the popular video game character, Sonic the Hedgehog, never had a mouth because when I played a demo of the game, Sonic Adventure on the Dreamcast console, the game model didn't need to feature it while I was playing the game, even the other characters didn't feature their mouths when playing as them during that time I was playing a short demo. Caught me by complete surprise that they do have mouths all along. That has been the case a lot of the time back then with video games that have the polygons and early demonstrations of three...
Here's a question.
Would you want to have a day full of unexpected surprises or a day where everything goes your way?
Lot to think about; it's okay, you can take your time.
I took the time to take out the dictionary and look up the definition of the word: Chaos.
"Confused unorganized state of primordial matter before the creation of distant forms."
Many people relating to the topic of autism would go through the times everyday where it can be extremely chaotic; Even for the smallest of things that would feel very out of line that children with autism would freak out!
That is why there is order. Here are some examples that are in control.
Being familiar with what goes on; Everything becomes routine, everyone is happy and things no longer becomes chaotic. Indeed, order is very self explanatory; Simply put, don't change a thing....
You are perfect just the way you are.
It can be a common struggle for people who have autism. Wanting to escape from the diagnosis and be perfect. Possible to escape indeed and become someone else, but you still have autism. In this case, it can be very difficult to want to be perfect and to make no mistakes; Truth is, there is always going to be mistakes. Another truth to this is everyone that does not have autism also makes mistakes.
There is one thing I have always wanted to try out and see if it may work. Whenever mistakes happen and children know that they have made a mistake and beat themselves up for it, the idea that I came to mind is a series of videos of people making similar mistakes. Reason why I wanted to see how the strategy play out is so the children can understand that it it not just them that makes similar mistakes, a lot of people can relate, but one of the key parts of these videos is how do they handle these mistakes. Now that I think of it, if I...
Talking to myself. Talking for myself.
“You are the real struggle.”
No one had anything to do with the problems with autism. In fact, many of them have been there wanting to help. Already have chosen to move on from past mistakes, but I felt like it was necessary to share something like this to understand what may be a key challenge in what makes the diagnosis would feel like a struggle. The main key struggle (okay to disagree) is ourselves.
My parents always taught me to accept mistakes when things go horribly wrong, and that I know it would be my mistakes. Readers can believe me when I say that I have made many mistakes. May sound cruel when I said to myself that “you are the real struggle” as I see my reflection, but after staring at that person for a while, I had a feeling that this may be the reason why autism may be so hard for those who have it. No one had anything to do with it, to me, they are innocent.
May have limitations whether it is in speech,...
No one was ever the villain.
I want to make this blog post brief and to the point.
Not too long ago this month, I decided to go say hello to a schoolmate I used to go to high school with. Knew him since elementary.
I took a good gander at what I did say to him much MUCH much earlier; eight years ago to be specific, and I was not proud of myself for what I have said to him. I can't tell you the details but I will say that the main reason why I said those wrong things was because of the absence of inclusion. Abandoned, alone, and left out. Still was not right to say rude things. I still had to say something to him to say hi, and I couldn't just ignore my mistake, so I went on and said that I was a big jerk back then and that I was sorry for so many things.
The guy said no hard feelings and said that HE was a bit of a jerk too. I didn't believe him, and wanted to take all of the blame saying he and the friends were innocent and I was the villain.
Then he responded by...